Tuesday

I Feel Myself

IFM introduction

When considering an ecstatic sensory experience such as orgasm, it seems obvious to me that the approach to such a task should at least attempt to venerate the experience. The site has been founded to present orgasm to you in a context that we feel befits it, and the individuals experiencing it at the time.



The participants on IFM contribute for varying reasons. As Werner Heisenberg realised way back in 1927, the very act of observation alters the object observed; and here, as with atomic physics, so too does the rule apply. So the voyeur plays a crucial part in this reciprocal experience. Some contribute because theyre exhibitionists who revel in the idea of having the camera and the worlds eyes upon them. It intensifies their orgasm and can be the sole source of their fantasies to achieve it. Others contribute because they feel orgasm, though usually intensely private, is worth sharing in this manner if it generates a greater understanding of how to give and receive them. More, still, because they have an uninhibited spirit and are driven by an urge to try new things.

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But why create a site with ordinary people sharing their orgasms in varying stages of undress? For one - and Ill be totally honest now - watching someone orgasm is an intensely erotic experience, that becomes increasingly addictive. When their climax breaks forth, the contortions of their face, the convulsions of their body, forces you to be swept into the contributors abandonment and ecstasy; and without disturbing the private intimacy, you share a moment akin to that which only lovers share. Sometimes the journey they draw you into is sweet, soft and slow; at other times its visceral, voracious almost violent, but it is always beautiful and always a privilege. Its all really rather hedonistic, and as far as pleasure seeking goes, orgasm is at its pinnacle.


But we do have some altruistic intent. Orgasm is no mean feat, for some it is not experienced to it's fullest, and for others, not at all. The importance of unrepressive positive sexual attitudes can not be underestimated in creating a happy, healthy, orgasmic society. The anorgasmic condition can obviously be a consequence of our physical and mental health. However it can also be caused by negative body/self image. So the same way that the waif supermodel female image in mainstream media is considered responsible for eating disorders and poor body image, the typical characteristics of those in mainstream porn, along with the rendition of orgasm and perhaps sex in totality, could also be responsible for feelings of sexual inadequacy. This could have the effect of inhibiting the everyday girl and guys ability to feel truly and exhilaratingly sexy, just the way the are. I believe good orgasms are everybodys innate and undeniable right! To cause such negative effects is a most reprehensible offence, and it is our intention to go some way towards counteracting it.

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So inside us all is that naughty, cavorting sexual divinity, and I say come with me and set them free.

~ Liandra


member testimonials

"Congratulations! what you have achieved is art, pure erotic art with a capital A. Deep deep captivating arousing and absolutely frustrating ;-) art. Bravo! "

"I just wanted to say that this site, and your other two, are fantastic. They are so elegant and well done, so intimate, and beautiful. They are a huge turn on, especially IFM. I don't understand why other sites have to be so unreal, fake, and disrespectful to women. You have done something quite amazing. I would love to know what you have planned next? Any thoughts of doing things live, or connecting users in some way?"
›› John

"I would like to express my appreciation and thanks , for what can only be described as a truly beautiful experience for the viewer. I have trawled many sex web-sites, in reality, searching for something sensitive and visually inspiring but, up till now, have only found myself increasingly becomming both bored and disgusted with the monotony of their content, and the irritating bombardment of pop-ups offering similar material. In your own instance, the subject matter is extremely refreshing, real, and qualitative, and certainly in my own case, depicted in such an invigorating manner, that how could I not feel myself to be sharing intuitively in the experience, with the females on camera. My thanks again for such inspiring ,as well as soul -satisfyiing work"
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"This is without a doubt the best shit I've ever witnessed in my life. You all are genius. This is the definition of erotica. Seriously. Y'all deserve a frickin award. "
›› Kevin

"Wow, this is so different and very cool. The real beauty of the female being is in complete form. No sex doll garbage that so many sites offer. I'm a guy and enjoy masturbation as part of my sex life. I prefer sensual, deep sexual experiences, both with a partner and without. Most guys are probably intimidated in expressing this about themselves, but I was moved by this site. I love watching a woman masturbate. It turns me on beyond belief. IFM is natural, intimate and warm. Your site is refreshing and spiritual. Thanks."
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"Congratulation for the new great success! Of course, immediately I bought my Premium Membership. You can't find...a more erotic site on the whole web. Its really worth the money."
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"So, I thought. It is finally here. I logged on and registered with I FEEL MYSELF with some trepidation, fully expecting to be disappointed. I wasn't. I have just finished watching all of the vids and each is breathtaking in its own individual way. The creators have managed to retain all of the integrity, and the added dimensions of nudity and whole body shots only enhance the beauty and sensuality of the submissions where I had expected it to cheapen them. Congratulations seems such a petty and insubstantial word for what you have managed to achieve with the new site. I look forward to future submission, (particularly the lap dancing one. WOW!!!!), with great anticipation. If anyone reading this has not yet registered with I FEEL MYSELF I urge you to do so."
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"... They have made what might be the internet's first serious site for video erotica. A site that takes its production, customers and content equally seriously, producing erotica with an afterthought that's not going to their bank accounts, but to the actual aesthetic and erotic values of the work produced. Far removed from smutty porn, but no less exciting or 'dirty', quite the contrary actually... revel in the amazing work of erotic art and sexual positivity that is I Feel Myself."
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"... goes far above and beyond anything that I expected. Max is a genius with the editing. The ambience created by the lighting is amazing and really adds a special touch as well...I have been reticent and cynical about [BA] being classified as "ART". However, the creative talents of all involved in [IFM], in my opinion definitely calls for such a definition. The special touches in all of the clips thus far really pull you into the experience, which is what art should do if it's done well..."
›› Garybobs

"... I think I have subscribed to my very last, no... its way too classy and way too good to be called a porn site, ever. Fantastic in every respect. One of the things that I enjoyed most is the brief moment the editors put at the end of each clip, when the artists finished and were trying to compose themselves. It was like a brief moment of quiet introspection and you wondered what was going through their minds. These sites are stimulating both sexually and intellectually."
›› panthr6868

"Congratulations to all who have pulled this together and the lovely Liandra for her superb introduction. It's good to see so many contributors and members from both side here already."
›› Belgareth

"...You have successfully, tastefully and very erotically captured what may very well be the most beautiful sight on our planet, the female orgasm. ...The orgasm that a woman can give herself from her own manipulations is probably her most intense. To me this is one of the things which makes masturbation such a beautiful act ... because I think a woman's entire body is beautiful. This must certainly include her genitals which are also beautiful to behold and in my humble opinion are the very essence of her femininity. To be able to witness her whole body as the ecstasy of her orgasm washes over her is just a marvelous sight..."
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"At last. The site so many of us have been waiting for, and it was worth the wait. The girls are all fantastic and I can't wait for the new ones to arrive. Well done team!"
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"Those who are familiar with the deliciously devilish Beautful Agony know that the hottest thing on earth is watching girls and boys have richter scale tipping orgasms. But until now, we've only seen them from the neck up. As molten hot as this is, I for one have always wanted to see the rest of the picture. Now you can."

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Friday

Masturbation: the seeking of sexual pleasure with oneself.

by Catherine Novac
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Article online since August 20th 2009, 12:44
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In the past, this pleasurable practice was associated with feelings of fear, guilt, and misconceptions. These attitudes still exist today. Did you know that most individuals, even when in a sexual relationship, masturbate on occasion?
It is important to note that for some there are many conflicting and ambivalent feelings associated to the thought and knowledge of their partner engaging in masturbation when they are not around. These feelings may include jealousy, revulsion (especially if masturbation is perceived as dirty and immoral), insecurity, anger, as well as the feeling that one’s partner is cheating. Such feelings can affect one’s self-esteem, lead to conflict and even a break-up. Should you have any such feelings and you feel it is having a serious impact on you and your relationship, it would be a good to discuss it with a therapist.

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The age at which we discover that touching certain parts of our body gives us pleasure is different from individual to individual. Many believe that masturbation is a naturally learned behaviour. Not true. Some fall upon it accidentally, through some form of physical activity, rubbing themselves on objects such as stuffed animals… If the person was not prepared and it is unexpected, it can cause surprise and even upset. Others set out to explore and masturbate after hearing others speak about this mysterious phenomenon, or on the advice of a friend. First attempts are often awkward and unproductive.

Masturbation can have several aims, it feels good, it is a sexual release, and understanding what feels good empowers you with self-knowledge, providing you with very intimate facts you can share with your partner. Everyone is distinct in what is sexually arousing, and men and women differ in the general way they masturbate.
Male masturbation:
In general men’s masturbation centres on the penis. They may rub their penis against their body with one hand or two. They may choose to roll it between their palms as they move their hands up and down along the shaft of the penis. Others will thrust their pelvis on something like a pillow.

The actual stroking technique of the penis may differ. It may go from a very gentle caress to a strong hold, from a slow pace to a very quick motion. Most often, as a man gets close to orgasm his movements become more rapid. However, when he actually ejaculates, most will slow down dramatically, or even stop any stimulation of the penis. The gland being very sensitive at orgasm makes further stimulation unpleasant (this is often the case with women as well).

Saliva, soap (in the bath or shower), oil, cream … can be used as a lubricant to permit smooth movement along the shaft. Some enjoy the use of a vibrator, or stimulate their anus and nipples while masturbating (yes, I did say anus and nipples).

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Certain men tend to focus their energy on orgasm when masturbating (this can take as little as 2 to 3 minutes), while others take a slower approach. Quick can be practical when time is limited, however this prepares you little for sex with a partner. Rushing through does not usually lead to mutual sexual gratification. Taking one’s time not only extends the pleasure but may also intensify it.
Female masturbation:
Women on the other hand differ greatly in the ways they choose to masturbate. It may range from stimulation of the clitoral area, the clitoris itself, the entire mons area (region over the pubic bone) rather than the clitoris alone (the clitoris is extremely sensitive, making direct stimulation over a period of time uncomfortable). They may use their hands, an object, or a vibrator… Often direct stimulation of the clitoris involves a circular, up and down or side-to-side movement. Masturbation may also involve pulling on the inner lips, moving a finger in and out of the vagina, stimulating the G-spot or the vaginal entrance without penetration… Rarely is penetration alone used to masturbate.

Women may masturbate by squeezing and contracting the thigh muscles, pelvic thrusts against something, cross their legs and contract their muscles, stimulate their breasts, and fantasize.

Unlike men, many women continue to stimulate their clitoral area during and after orgasm. Also, the female sexual response is usually slower than that of the man’s while masturbating (and even longer during intercourse, possibly due to a lack of direct stimulation).

Masturbation has for a long time been perceived as an individual practice. The reality is that many individuals have a certain level of discomfort associated to the thought of being watched while masturbating, however it is often considered very stimulating to a partner. This knowledge can be shared and use to guide your partner. Also, if birth control is not available, mutual masturbation can go a long way in providing pleasure for both you and your partner. It is a viable alternative to intercourse.

Masturbation, once achieved with comfort and know-how can be a very exciting part of a couples’ sexual interactions.

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There is a negative side to masturbation. It is when it becomes obsessive (recurrent and persistent ideas, thoughts, impulses, or images) or compulsive (repetitive, purposeful, and intentional in response to an obsession) in nature. That is when the behaviour feels out of control. Your life revolves around the when, where and how you are going to masturbate, causing marked distress and leaving little time and room for anything else. If you believe any of this describes you, it would help to discuss it with a professional. There is a way out.

Questions, concerns, column suggestions? Leave a comment here or email sex therapist Catherine Novac at catherinenovac@videotron.ca.
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Saturday

Friday Weird Science: Careful with that Toy! (NSFW)

Category: Friday Weird Science
Posted on: July 10, 2009 12:46 AM, by Scicurious

I think we can all agree that the American population has become a little more open with regard to sexual practices than it was in, say, the 1950's. The existence of premarital sex is discussed in multiple media outlets, and there are homosexual relationships discussed with candor. However, there are still several sexual practices which are still considered relatively taboo with regards to public discussion. While male masturbation, for example is discussed (often as comedic relief) pretty openly, female masturbation remains an extremely taboo topic in popular discussion. However, another topic also remains un-discussed (well, except for on Sex and the City, and they've discussed EVERYTHING).

Sex toys.

ResearchBlogging.org Griffin and McGwin. "Sexual Stimulation Device-related Injuries" Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 2009.

Sci would like to take this time to note that Neurotopia claims no responsibility for what happens if your boss catches you clicking around below the fold.

Having conducted an informal poll myself (in this case, known as asking my friends) most women, and some men of my acquaintance, own sex toys. Every woman I've ever met has at least HEARD of 'the rabbit', and most people know a bit about rings, dildos, beads, or regular vibrators. Studies report that 68% of adults between 18-39 use sex toys more than once a month (Foxman et al, 2006). And yet, they're the kind of things that most people wouldn't discuss in public if their lives depended on it, and in private, only with close friends or after a few drinks (or both).

(Behold the rabbit. In the immortal words of Charlotte from Sex and the City, "Look! Oh, it's so cute! Oh I thought it would be all scary and weird, but it isn't! It's pink, for girls! I love the little bunny, it has a little face! Like Peter Rabbit.")

Now you might think, well, what's the problem? This is people's private business, and not something that most people want to talk about, so what's the big deal? Well, it turns out that some of these things...aren't so easy to use. After all, we're talking about delicate openings in the anatomy, and in some cases, small machinery. If you don't know what you're doing...things could get lost in there. Or stuck. Or rip things. Or leave pieces. Or...ow...

And it turns out, this happens more frequently than you might think. The authors of this study collected data from the National Electronic Injury Surveillance System (NEISS), and found that, between 1995-2006, 6799 people came in to the ER with "sexual stimulation device" related injuries. And the rate increased over time (presumably as the use of sex toys became more widespread in the population). Average age of sex toy related injuries was 30-39, and white males had the highest rates of injury (indicating either increased usage for which the toy was not intended, or an inability to read the instructions).

Of the injuries studied, 78.1% were anorectal, and 18.2% were vaginal or penile in nature. The most frequent misuse of a device was with those devices that vibrated (73.5%), with the second highest injury rate occurring among users of dildos (12.9%). 95.2% of male injuries were anorectal, and 74.8% of those injuries were using vibrating devices. Women tended to injure themselves vaginally, and yet again, those vibrating devices were to blame.

The authors have several possible explanations for this. First it's possible that sex toys have become more dangerous over the years, particularly after the year 2000, though this seems pretty unlikely, as the technology hasn't really changed. The more likely explanation, though, is that more people are using them. With more overall numbers, the likelihood increases that someone is going to be stupid uninformed about their use, and wind up in the ER with "private pain problems".

But the other question is, why more male injuries than female? The answer to this question is actually pretty simple. Women are more likely to use the vaginal route of insertion. The vagina is a lot more forgiving than the anus, and tends toward more natural lubrication, making injury less likely. Another possibility that the authors discuss is the idea that women are less sexually active than men as age increases, and so you're going to see more male injuries overall, as use of sex toys in females begins to decline. Sci thinks it's probably a combination of both factors.

There are a couple major issues with this data, of course. First of all, the population statistics are based on the idea that 100% of the adult population is using sex toys, which they probably aren't. Secondly, there's the major issue of whether or not the person involved in an injury seeks medical care in the first place. After all, this can be a bit embarrassing to explain to your doctor. I mean, what if they really DO keep a drawer full of things they found up people's anuses in the ER, like in Scrubs?

The fear of embarrassment means that the average time between getting the injury (or getting something stuck) and going to the ER is TWO DAYS. Or MORE. People, you're dignity isn't worth two days of pain and the possibility of multiple expensive and highly difficult surgeries. Hie thee to the ER.

The moral of this journal article, is this: whatever you're using, make sure you use adequate lubricant, and READ THE INSTRUCTIONS. After all, some of the battery-powered devices, for example, can't be taken in water, and how would that look if someone found you electrocuted in your bath in the morning with your vibrator. At least when you have to go in to the ER, you can make up an excuse! And if you do get injured, get to the ER. They've seen it all before.

Griffin, R., & McGwin, G. (2009). Sexual Stimulation Device-Related Injuries Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 35 (4), 253-261 DOI: 10.1080/00926230902851249

Wednesday

Masturbation Month Comes to Town

If you didn’t know May was National Masturbation Month, you’re not alone.
By Liz Spikol

If you didn’t know May was National Masturbation Month, you’re not alone—nor are you even necessarily Catholic. The annual observance doesn’t have a hugely high profile. It started in 1995 in—where else?—San Francisco, as a response to the forced resignation of U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders. After a speech at the United Nations World AIDS Day in 1994, an audience member asked Elders about masturbation’s potential for discouraging early sexual activity. She replied: “I think [it] is something that is part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught.”

That was the end of the first black surgeon general’s Washington career, but the beginning of National Masturbation Month, a protest effort started by the company Good Vibrations. This year it has its Philadelphia debut.

Elicia Gonzalez, 34, is spearheading the local self-pleasure education effort in conjunction with the Mazzoni Center, Philadephia’s LGBT health center, where, as manager of the Collective, Gonzalez addresses sexual practice and drug use among men of color. We spoke with her about the fine art of onanism.

What motivated you to start a National Masturbation Month observance in Philly?

“I initially had the idea to do it primarily because at Mazzoni we talk about masturbation quite often with clients, and I talk with my staff about talking to their clients about masturbation as a way of expressing their sexuality, but doing so with very low risk. I knew that May was coming around and that raising awareness about masturbation in general would be a good idea.”

And it seems to tie into the workshop you offer to women on the subject.

“I’ve had a longstanding mission to help empower and educate females. I did the workshop at the LGBT Women of Color Conference and at Sister Song. The workshop helps women dispel the myths surrounding masturbation and encourages women to talk openly about their values and beliefs about masturbation, which is also the goal is for the Hot Button event.”

So the Hot Button event is a party?

“We’re having a sort of Hot Button lounge, if you will, in the basement of the Fuse party and we’re going to have a Masturbation 101 workshop, a sexuality Pictionary and masturbation Quizzo. So that’s going to be a very fun and interactive way of getting education out there but also raising awareness and helping people talk about it. Because a lot of the shame and stigma that I’ve heard comes from not being able to discuss it openly and honestly, and being really ashamed about it.”

Do you feel like religion has something to do with that shame?

“I think a lot of the myths that are currently still at play stem from religious teachings that say that masturbation is a sin against God and various religions. The Old Testament stated that Onan basically sinned against God because he didn’t impregnate his brother’s wife. Instead he masturbated and spilled the semen on the ground. That has been interpreted as a sin against God. But in actuality, [the story] has more to do with procreation. This is just my own personal view, but in my understanding, part of religious teaching is promoting procreation. Anything that kind of goes against procreation, including masturbation as well as homosexuality, is sort of condemned.”

I recently learned about the Passion4Christ Movement’s anti-masturbation campaign, which claims masturbation is dirty.

“There are a ton of different [myths]. Doctors used to think that bringing your body to orgasm would basically cause it to get so excited that it could potentially result in brain damage.”

Do you think there’s more shame around masturbation for women?

“I think so. Historically, female masturbation has been equated with immorality and insanity. When we introduced the idea of having a Hot Button party, there were several people who came out saying that they were surprised to learn that females masturbate. They thought it was only something that men did. … It goes really, really deep. Women are constantly talking about the impact that this has on their sexuality because I think that sometimes our sexuality exists only for the pleasure of others. You’re not necessarily allowed to explore your own sexuality. It can kind of keep you a prisoner of your own shame. Women’s bodies have been demonized for centuries and women have often been discouraged from discussing their sexuality.”

Is that why you feel it’s important for women to masturbate?

“I think in terms of overall general health and well-being, masturbation is a healthy sexual expression that we have for ourselves, by ourselves, on our own terms. It’s a way of expressing sexuality while staying safe. In terms of the overall mission of the Mazzoni Center, we provide health services to LGBT Philadelphians, and sexuality is part of that. And this is one of my life missions: making people feel empowered to make decisions, to take control of your own body. When you feel empowered about your own body, I think that makes all the difference in the world.”

Saturday

Campus Confidential

Tessa Bryant
Issue date: 4/3/09 Section: Opinion

I am going to let all of you in on a secret: I masturbate. Often. Even when I had a boyfriend, I masturbated (and he did too).

Let me pose a question. What is more shocking: a woman that masturbates, or one that is willing to openly discuss it in public?

As I'm sure everyone is well aware, I am an advocate of sex. Sometimes, though, I like to keep it a little more personal. Sometimes there is nothing better than having a little one-on-one fun, getting in touch with your own body.

Don't worry, I am not going to get into the gritty details of my self-pleasure. I won't discuss my technique. Or my schedule. Or my fantasies.

I feel it important, however, to discuss the stigma attached to female masturbation, like many other issues regarding female sexuality. Is it fair? No, but it is an unfortunate part of life. As women, we get the short end of the stick more often than not.

Society has been pervasively masculine-dominated for a large percent of recorded history.

Simply put, men tend to get away with more than women. Guys pick up a girl for the sex and he's congratulated. A woman does the same thing and she's treated like a slut. Boys will be boys, right?

An image of the "ideal" woman has been passed down for generations. Although the sexual revolution helped break the mold and women have come a long way, the playing field is hardly equal. Women are still held to standards that just aren't fair.

My friend Jay contends that this standard does not only apply to women.

"How many guys do you think would own up to it?" he asked. "If you're doing it, you're not getting any action from the girls. It's taboo for both sexes."

He has a point. People tend to cast a negative light on masturbation, even though sexuality studies suggest an alarming number (along the lines of 97 percent of men) masturbate. It is a natural act. Why treat it like something wrong, dirty or taboo?

There are depictions of masturbation in early cave wall drawings and in the art and writings of nearly every culture through history since that time.

I am going to let all of you in on a secret: I masturbate. Often. Even when I had a boyfriend, I masturbated (and he did too).

Let me pose a question. What is more shocking: a woman that masturbates, or one that is willing to openly discuss it in public?

As I'm sure everyone is well aware, I am an advocate of sex. Sometimes, though, I like to keep it a little more personal. Sometimes there is nothing better than having a little one-on-one fun, getting in touch with your own body.

Don't worry, I am not going to get into the gritty details of my self-pleasure. I won't discuss my technique. Or my schedule. Or my fantasies.

I feel it important, however, to discuss the stigma attached to female masturbation, like many other issues regarding female sexuality. Is it fair? No, but it is an unfortunate part of life. As women, we get the short end of the stick more often than not.

Society has been pervasively masculine-dominated for a large percent of recorded history.

Simply put, men tend to get away with more than women. Guys pick up a girl for the sex and he's congratulated. A woman does the same thing and she's treated like a slut. Boys will be boys, right?

An image of the "ideal" woman has been passed down for generations. Although the sexual revolution helped break the mold and women have come a long way, the playing field is hardly equal. Women are still held to standards that just aren't fair.

My friend Jay contends that this standard does not only apply to women.

"How many guys do you think would own up to it?" he asked. "If you're doing it, you're not getting any action from the girls. It's taboo for both sexes."

He has a point. People tend to cast a negative light on masturbation, even though sexuality studies suggest an alarming number (along the lines of 97 percent of men) masturbate. It is a natural act. Why treat it like something wrong, dirty or taboo?

There are depictions of masturbation in early cave wall drawings and in the art and writings of nearly every culture through history since that time.